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Saying Goodbye to New Year’s Resolutions

I love New Years, the first of the month, and honestly, Mondays.  And mornings.  I’m one of those awesome (dreaded?) morning people.

Do you know why I love them?  They are all fresh starts—a chance to wipe the slate clean and begin again.  Every morning, every week, every month, every year, it’s an opportunity to accomplish some purely amazing shit.

But here’s the catch, having all of these fresh starts means a gazillion different points to set new goals…and I love me some new goals!  I’m a goal-flake.  I’m shooting at new targets every day…sometimes because yesterday’s goal made me feel icky, sometimes because I realized it was unrealistic, or didn’t align with another goal…sometimes it’s because I’m a human and humans like to change their mind. Sometimes….ohhh, shiny object!

So how’s a girl to deal with being a human and wanting to be an ass-kicking accomplisher?  (Yeah, I’m making up words now, but you get it, right?)

 

Saying Goodbye to New Year's Resolutions | Feather & Wild

I gave up resolutions a long time ago.  Resolutions get broken.  That’s just what they do.  They are like a one night stand that show back up in April when you’re spring-cleaning your desk,  wondering why you never called them.  Who needs that?!

A few years ago, I was introduced to the Word of the Year theory.  Instead of setting boring resolutions that you won’t think of after January 5th, you pick a word to live by for the year.  And you plaster that word everywhere.  “Simplify” is not nearly as judgey  as “declutter one area of the house every week.”  I’d rather have the chance to make 365 amazing small choices than having a weekly guilt trip hanging over my head.  How about you?

Now, there are a couple little pieces of advice to make the word of the year thing work:

  1. Be Nice.  – Don’t pick a word that makes you feel guilty.  I chose “discipline” in 2015 and I felt like that word kicked me in the stomach every day.  It turned into a daily guilt trip, so don’t think every word is a good idea.  Give yourself some grace and be kind to yourself.
  2. Focus on how you want to FEEL.  – Your word becomes the measuring stick for every decision you face in the coming year.  Choosing a word that embodies how you want to feel creates a great foundation for a successful year.  Feeling run down and crazy?  Maybe this is your year to simplify, rest, or say no.  Wanting to feel like a Badass Boss?  Go straight for badass, or maybe simmer it down a bit and go for hustle or slay.  Feeling a little lost in the world?  Try grounded, connected, and authentic on for size.
  3. Display it! – Put your word EVERYWHERE.  Create a pretty little piece of art and hang it…everywhere.  Above your desk, on the bathroom mirror, beside the front door.  Get it made into a piece of jewelry like these awesome bracelets from The Curated Gift Shop.  Heck, write it on your hand if you need to.  Post sticky notes everywhere.  Write it on your planner.  The more you see it, the more you’ll live it.
  4. Create a corresponding mantra.  – Last year my word was actually a mantra, “Do It Scared.”  I think it started as “bravery” but the mantra was what really resonated and I ran with it.  Alternatively, I also said a lot of “Do Scary Shit.”  And it turned into a podcast…and a t-shirt.  But really, what I’m saying is expand on your word just a bit, but don’t overcomplicate it.  My favorite this year?  The word Abracadabra. It means “I create as I speak” which becomes a beautiful mantra on its own.  Discipline can be “do the work.”  Authentic can be “Let’s just be who we really are.” What rings in your heart when you think of your word?
  5. Don’t be afraid to change it. – Seriously, don’t let your word become a weight.  The moment it’s not resonating, bye-bye! But be sure to really sit with it and honor what it’s done for you and why you’ve outgrown it.  You’ll learn a lot.

I had a hard time picking my word for 2017.  I bounced a ton of words around before one finally felt right.  The wonderful ladies who wrote The Resolute Word were a huge help when I needed a sounding board and some ideas.  I highly recommend picking up their book and joining their Facebook group.  It’s not too late to pick a word for 2017.  It’s never too late.  Maybe it’s just going to be your word for January, or maybe February by the time you land on it, but who cares…you’re focusing on you and what you want.

Curious about what word I finally chose for 2017?  I’ll share mine next week!

Already have your word?  Drop a line in the comments and let me know!  Who knows, you may inspire someone else!

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